Mark Hodermarsky reflects on the emotional release found in crying, sparked by a recent viewing of “The Great Escaper,” featuring cinematic legends Michael Caine and the late Glenda Jackson. The film, based on the true story of Bernard Jordan, a British World War II veteran, chronicles his 2014 journey from a care home to commemorate the 70th anniversary of the D-Day landing in Normandy. This poignant narrative not only highlights the sacrifices of veterans but also addresses their ongoing battles with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and the health challenges they face in old age.
Hodermarsky’s reaction to the film underscores the significance of tears as a form of emotional catharsis. He notes that while stoicism may be a tempting response, embracing vulnerability can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself. According to him, “shedding tears unleashes our humanity,” allowing individuals to connect genuinely with their emotions and experiences.
The Healing Nature of Tears
The act of crying serves multiple purposes in our lives. It can be a response to profound loss, such as the death of loved ones, where tears deepen one’s appreciation for those who have passed. Rather than shying away from sadness, Hodermarsky encourages embracing it, suggesting that fighting against the natural flow of emotions does not provide comfort.
Humor also plays a vital role in eliciting tears of joy. Hodermarsky cites the Monty Python comedy troupe as a source of laughter that often leads to tears, illustrating how humor can create shared experiences. “We become as one person,” he remarks, highlighting the powerful connection laughter can forge among individuals.
Life’s milestones often elicit tears of joy, such as engagements, the birth of a child, or a grandparent’s first encounter with a grandchild. Hodermarsky emphasizes that these joyous moments contribute to the rich tapestry of human experience, reinforcing the idea that expressing emotions is a fundamental aspect of being human.
Breaking Down Emotional Barriers
In his commentary, Hodermarsky invites both men and women to embrace their emotional sides, urging readers to discard societal expectations that discourage vulnerability. The notion that tears indicate weakness is a misconception that can hinder personal growth. Drawing from the wisdom of Charles Dickens, he asserts, “We need never be ashamed of our tears.” This sentiment encourages honesty in emotional expression, reinforcing that acknowledging feelings is a strength, not a weakness.
As Hodermarsky reflects on his experiences, he calls for a collective recognition of the importance of emotional authenticity. He believes that allowing oneself to cry, whether from sadness, joy, or laughter, is essential to understanding and embracing one’s true self.
In conclusion, the ability to cry—whether in response to heartache or happiness—is a testament to our shared humanity. It is an act that can heal and connect us, reminding us of the emotions we all experience as we navigate the complexities of life.
Mark Hodermarsky, a retired English teacher from Saint Ignatius High School and author of eight books, writes from Olmsted Falls and contributes regularly to the Plain Dealer and cleveland.com. His insights invite readers to reflect on the emotional landscapes that shape our existence.
